What Do You Want To Be? (part two)
In my last blog, I addressed the question: What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up? This time around, I want to talk about this question from a different perspective. Many of us sometimes confuse the verb Be with Do. We spend a lot of time wondering what to Do with our lives, rather than defining what it means to Be in our lives. This is the meaning behind the clever saying: I am a Human Being, not a Human Doing.
We are reminded that what we Are is more important than what we Do. If we emanate love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding and gratitude, that will flavour everything we do and make it meaningful in the process!
When I was a young mother and had three pre-school children, I was often anxious and frantic, wanting to do something important in my life, besides raising my children. How ludicrous this seems now! What could possibly be more important than that? My main regret, if you can call it that, is that I wasn’t able to cultivate more of what I wanted to be, and surround my children with that beingness. Luckily, in mid-life when the children are grown up, I get a second chance to build my relationship with them with the love and consciousness that I lacked twenty years ago.
Many of us have a deep yearning inside to do Something, to be Something, to share Something, yet we cannot quite get a handle on what that Something is. As I am in touch with many beautiful souls who are like-minded and like-spirited, I see a couple of themes emerge.
One theme is: What should I be doing? This seems to mean that many are struggling with finding a satisfying career or vocation that includes and embraces their spiritual values and leanings.
A second theme is: Why isn’t my healing practice materializing/growing/thriving? While many seem to have a successful practice or “business” doing readings, healings and other services, others are struggling to create this. I hear a frustration with these people, who are wondering why their dreams aren’t coming true. There also seems to be frustration building when others make comments such as: Follow your intuition, Let the job find you, Stop trying so hard, The job is already there, you just need to raise your vibration to meet it. Although this is all good advice, I suspect the person on the receiving end can be left wondering what he or she is doing wrong.
Maybe I’m too pragmatic, but I think that it is great to put out the intention but the bills still have to be paid. It’s okay to take a less-than-ideal job, be grateful for what it does give you, and continue to be open to new and better opportunities that might feel closer to your desires and sense of purpose.
I also wonder if, with all the wonderful words and works and teachers and cute pictures with profound sayings, we are misled to believe that every single one of us should “make a living” or at least have a lucrative sideline as a psychic, angel therapist® , writer of spiritual books or sage dispensing ancient wisdom.
I admit to struggling with all of the above and what has become clear to me is this: It all comes back to the Being versus Doing thing. Even in my highest energy space, clearest mind and happiest state, a “healing practice” has never come easily for me. Am I doing something wrong? Is my vibration not high enough? Well, those are the wrong questions. The right question is: Am I emanating love each and every day in my career, vocation, personal life or any other aspect of my existence?
If you have not read “The Way of the Peaceful Warrior”, I suggest you do. It was the first “spiritual” book I read when I discovered I was on a path well over fifteen years ago. The sage in this book works in at a gas station and I think we can learn a lot from this. It doesn’t matter what we Do as long as we remember who we Be. (Well, that was terrible grammar! Remember who we Are!)
My current job in the tourism industry may not look very spiritual from the outside. But each interaction I have with a volunteer, every time I smile at a passenger, every piece of trash I pick up from the sidewalk, every email I send out, is an opportunity to emanate a little more love, and isn’t that the point?
The more we let go of how things should look and accept how things are, the easier it is to Be our highest selves in each situation. I no longer worry about a Healing Practice. My goal now is to be a Healing Presence.
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8/3/2012 04:11:37 am
Beautifully said. It reminds me of a question put in regards to two photos. One was of a bird sitting on her nest in a quiet away area in the forest, and the other picture was of a bird sitting on her nest between cement walls in the downtown city. The question was "Which one represented Peace ???" The answer was the one in the City. I remember when I originally started my healing practice, I thought how wonderful it was to be withdrawn from the dramas of the world in my own peaceful space doing reflexology with beautiful healing music playing in the background. Ahhh, if I could just live and do this forever I thought. (The bird in the bush). But I have now discovered, a true healing practice is to bring that inner peace into the fray, and to be a healing presence irregardless of what is around me. Another gift I had recently been given was being told "You have learned how to heal through your hands with Reiki, now it is time for you to learn to heal through your Eyes. For when you look into another's eyes, you light a flame which can never be put out". That still brings me to tears, so whenever or whatever I am doing, as a simple sales clerk at the store, I take the time to lovingly make eye contact with all the dear passers by, and send them love. It has been interesting to note the ones who shine love right back to me and to the dear souls who so fear love they totally avoid making eye contact. To those I send extra blessings. And being in the fray, it has been an exercise to bring myself back and to hold peace and to remember who I am, espeacially when my buttons are being pushed, customers, fellow workers, etc. The learning about My Self, my old judgments, ways of being have been incredible, and with awarness and the willingness to be open and to see my self and my reactive behavior have been enlightening to say the least. So where is my healing practice, right where I stand, right where I Am. Love and Blessings, Ashana
8/3/2012 05:36:42 am
P.S. And yesterday on my drive in to Kamloops, there was an "Ah Ha" moment when I was hit with a deeper realization that "Life Purpose" is really and truly about how "I am Being in the Doing", whatever that Doing is. Living by Example. Then discovering that Rosanne had just written a blog about the same thing. Connected are we ??? Namaste
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